A Labor Day “Thank YOU” To Caregivers

A Labor Day “Thank YOU” To Caregivers

In honor of Labor Day I’d like to salute two groups of people:

PROfessional Caregivers; whose job is helping families know what a hard day’s work feels like. They also know the satisfaction that comes from making a real difference in the lives of those they assist.

PERsonal/Family Caregivers; the tireless men and women who sacrifice to make sure their aging loved ones are cared for, often as they’re caring for their own children, their spouses and—when time allows—themselves.

The needs of our loved one’s don’t take a vacation. Caregivers—whether they are formally trained or have found themselves in a caregiving situation because of a loved one’s needs—often spend holidays like Labor Day with an aging parent or grandparent, or working, and rarely get to “take a day off!”

More workers than ever before are juggling two jobs—their paid work and caring for a loved one.  Candidly, we would like to make that three jobs and include caring for themselves!

Read More

Three Things It’s “Okay to Not” Do For The Holidays

Three Things It’s “Okay to Not” Do For The Holidays

Step 1:  It is okay to NOT view your Holiday’s in the vision of others (Awareness)

The Holidays are not about recreating Hallmark card scenes in front of the fireplace or around a dinner table full of photogenic family members. The Holidays can be a confusing time, especially for Caregiver’s who take satisfaction (or avoid pain) by caring for others. 

Read More

Why Siblings Argue About Mom and Dad!

Why Siblings Argue About Mom and Dad!

Sibling rivalry is real and natural.  We learn it an early age it is a built-in part of family dynamics. This can be both good (a source of motivation) and bad (a cause of pettiness and distancing)

Denial, particularly in caring for a loved one with Dementia is also quite common.  We are all, for lack of a better word, cheerleaders for our loved ones.  We want to see them do well and be well so it is often hard to see or accept when reality offers a different picture.

Read More

Father Knows Best

Father Knows Best

The show was called “Father Knows Best” and Robert Young (Father) always had the answers and advice for his growing family.

Well, in many households, “Mother Always Knew Best” too and she had a simple approach.  If the challenge was physical she would ask “when was the last time you had a bowel movement?”  If you were worried or troubled she would say, “it’s just stress, get busy with something you enjoy!”

Read More